As for the fear of losing a loved one, we need to reflect on whether or not we really love him or her, on whether our love is pure or impure. We do need to reflect on the purity of our hearts, on whether our love for someone is borne of genuine affection, or if it arises from selfish interests, such as financial gain. So if you fear losing your loved one, ask yourself if your love is pure or selfish. Ask yourself how you would react if your beloved one suddenly died and you received a million-dollar insurance payout as a result !
~Khangser Rinpoche~