To be a real Buddhist, you have to give due attention to interpersonal relationships and your family. We need to cultivate compassion by endeavoring to understand the problems others are facing. A little girl once confided in me that she finds it quite difficult to get along with her father, and that her parents don’t get along with one another. I told her to write down whatever good points her father happens to have, and then give the list to her father. Although she found it very difficult, she managed to do it, and afterwards her relationship with her father was much better.